Supporting a Loved One With an Addiction Issue - Guest Post
There are few ailments in
life which cause as much pain and suffering as
an addiction. All too often, the impact of an addiction extends beyond the
addict themselves and affects their closest friends and family as well. Both
the addict and their loved ones are liable to face the same emotions and the
same challenges. Feelings of guilt, fear, worry, and even anger are common.
Addiction is a disease which is able to twist the very fabric of what defines
an individual. It can warp their view of themselves and the world around them
to such an extent that the task of ridding an addict of their disease can at times
seem utterly impossible.
Remain Detached
When a loved one is
struggling with addiction, it is often difficult to know how best to support them, and in some cases, what can
feel like the right thing to do is actually the worst thing for them. A degree
of detachment is needed, and sometimes, as painful as it might be, addicts need
to get worse before they get better. Here are some things that you need to remember
when helping a loved one deal with an addiction.
Do Your Research
Every drug is different and every addict is different. The features of addiction
to various drugs can vary a great deal and no two addicts will have the same
experience of their addiction to the same substance. By doing as much research
as you can about the substances that you suspect to be involved in your loved
one’s addiction, you will be preparing yourself as much as possible for what
lies ahead. It is worth looking online for support groups and message boards,
both for addicts and for their families. Often, it is easier to discuss things
online, protected by the anonymity that the internet provides, than it is in
person.
Avoid Enabling
When it is someone that
you care about who you suspect to be suffering from an addiction, the
temptation is to provide them with whatever support they require, be it
emotional or financial. These instincts are perfectly natural; no one wants to
see someone that they care about suffer. However, it is important to recognise when
your support crosses the line into enabling. The most common example of this is
in the providing of financial aid. Money is the lifeblood of addiction and even
if the addict genuinely wishes to change, as long as they have the means and
opportunity to procure their drug of choice, they will be tempted.
Rather than providing an
addict with money directly, you should instead buy things on their behalf when
absolutely necessary. Should your loved one find themselves falling afoul of
the law because of their drug use then, rather than offering them the cash to pay
for legal representation, instead consider hiring a drug crime lawyer on their behalf.
Supporting a loved one
with an addiction is not easy. In fact, to provide the best support, you have
to be prepared to allow things to get worse for the addict. Focus on the long-term and on making sure that when they are
ready to change, you are there to help them.
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